Coping Techniques Reference Card
Grades 7–8 · Mental Wellness · Puffin Resilience Lab
When Stress Feels Manageable
- Box Breathing (4-4-4-4): Inhale 4 counts · Hold 4 · Exhale 4 · Hold 4. Repeat 4 times.
- 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding: Name 5 things you see, 4 you hear, 3 you can touch, 2 you smell, 1 you taste.
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Tense each muscle group for 5 seconds, then release. Start at your feet.
- Physical movement: A 10-minute walk activates the parasympathetic nervous system faster than most medications.
When Stress Feels Overwhelming
- Cold water: Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube. Activates the dive reflex, which slows heart rate.
- TIPP skill: Temperature · Intense exercise · Paced breathing · Progressive relaxation. Use in that order.
- Name it to tame it: Say or write the emotion precisely. "I'm anxious" is more actionable than "I feel bad."
- Opposite action: If you want to withdraw, call someone. If you want to yell, speak quietly. Do the opposite of the urge.
Journal Prompts for Emotional Regulation
- What am I feeling right now? Where do I feel it in my body?
- What triggered this feeling? Is my reaction proportionate to the situation?
- What would I tell a close friend if they were feeling this way?
- What's one small thing I can do in the next hour to feel slightly better?
- What does this feeling need from me — rest, action, connection, or space?
Puffin Resilience Lab · Mental Wellness Grades 7–8 · Ontario HPE Strand A
Crisis & Support Resources
Grades 7–8 · Mental Wellness · Keep this card — it's for you
If you're in crisis right now
- Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868 (call) · Text HELLO to 686868. Available 24/7, confidential, free.
- Crisis Services Canada: 1-833-456-4566. Available 24/7.
- Distress Line: Your local line is usually listed in the school agenda. Ask a trusted adult.
- 911: If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911.
Who you can talk to at school
- Your guidance counsellor (drop in or book a meeting)
- A teacher you trust
- The school social worker or psychologist (ask your teacher to connect you)
- The principal's office — they can connect you with support quickly
Signs you or a friend might need support
- Feeling hopeless or like nothing will get better for more than 2 weeks
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
- Sleeping too much or too little consistently
- Withdrawing from friends and family
- Thinking about hurting yourself or not wanting to be here
If a friend tells you they're struggling: Thank them for trusting you. Tell a trusted adult the same day — you're not betraying them, you're protecting them. You don't have to handle this alone.
Puffin Resilience Lab · Mental Wellness Grades 7–8 · It's okay to ask for help.
Journaling Prompts — Mental Wellness
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Self-Awareness
- Describe a moment this week when you felt really good about yourself. What caused it?
- What's one belief you have about yourself that you'd like to change? Where did it come from?
- What emotion do you find hardest to name or express? Why do you think that is?
- Write about a time you surprised yourself — by doing something you thought you couldn't do.
Stress & Coping
- What's one thing stressing you out right now? Break it into three smaller, more manageable pieces.
- Describe your go-to coping strategy. Does it actually help, or does it just avoid the problem?
- Write a letter to future-you with advice about getting through a hard week.
- What's one thing you always feel better after doing, even when you don't want to start?
Relationships & Peer Support
- Describe what "a good friend" looks like to you. How do you show up that way for others?
- Have you ever noticed a friend struggling? What did you do? What do you wish you'd done?
- What's something you wish your friends understood about how you're feeling lately?
- Write about a relationship (friend, family, teammate) that makes you feel supported. What makes it work?
Puffin Resilience Lab · Mental Wellness Grades 7–8 · Ontario HPE + CASEL Aligned
Peer Support Framework
Grades 7–8 · Mental Wellness · Teacher-facilitated activity guide
The 4-Step Check-In (to use with a friend)
- 1. "I've noticed you seem off lately. Are you doing okay?" Be specific — name what you observed, not what you assume.
- 2. Don't jump to solutions. Reflect back: "That sounds really hard." Ask: "Do you want advice or do you just need to talk?"
- 3. "It makes sense you're feeling that way." You don't need to fix it — being heard is often enough.
- 4. "Have you talked to anyone about this? I can go with you to the guidance office if you want." Never promise to keep serious disclosures secret.
What peer support IS and ISN'T
- ✅ Listening without judgment
- ✅ Normalizing ("you're not alone in feeling this way")
- ✅ Helping connect to adult support
- ✅ Checking in again the next day
- ❌ Taking responsibility for someone else's mental health
- ❌ Keeping secrets when someone might get hurt
- ❌ Trying to diagnose or "fix" someone
- ❌ Letting it consume you — your mental health matters too
When to involve an adult — immediately
- Your friend says they want to hurt themselves or others
- Your friend says they don't want to be alive anymore
- They're talking about a plan to harm themselves
- You're scared for their safety — trust that instinct
Puffin Resilience Lab · Mental Wellness Grades 7–8 · Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868